i just bought an add on called "the associator" a few hours after purchasing it, i noticed a selection under contacts called "relate contact." unfortunately, 2011 didn't show the relationship tab and i had to activate it under design layout in the tabs section. relate contacts and the relationship tab shows and works fine now. But my question is how different is it from "the associator" from Durkin software? Does the associator have more features than act's "relate contact" feature or is it pretty much the same and i should try to get a refund?